“The first thing people ask when somebody doesn’t drink is if that person is a former alcoholic. Another stereotype is that the person is boring, that you’re dull and miserable if you don’t drink. There’s a kind of intimate friendship that’s based on drinking together and sharing vulnerable feelings while drinking. I feel this type of relationship takes a lot more time to develop with somebody who’s sober. Sobriety makes you look different—unattractive or less fun in some way. Some people who drink in excess are uncomfortable and freak out if you say you’re sober. They think you’re stuck-up. They expect you to drink with them and not judge how much they drink.” —Hayley
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